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What is a friend?

Updated: Aug 21, 2021


The definition of a true friend is someone who has your back no matter what.


They watch out for you and ensure you are not in danger.


They will never purposely lead you into making decisions that aren't good for you.


A true friend will always have your best interest at heart.



Self Care Tip #01:


Don't count the number of social media friends you have. Instead, count the ones who show up and celebrate with you when times are good, as well as support you when things are not going so well.


You will likely find that your friendship circle is much smaller than you thought!


That's ok.



I read a statistic recently that said that in a lifetime, we make 396 friends. But only 33 (1 out of 12) friendships last.


Why is that?


Many times it's because one person has different experiences than the other person and they can no longer relate. This can lead to mis-communication, avoidance, resentment, arguments. None of those things are enjoyable, but they are necessary to go through so that you get to know the people who purport to be your friend.


Here's another statistic:


According to a study led by Robin Dunbar, while 150 is the maximum number of social relationships the average human can maintain with any degree of stability, we're only able to maintain a mere five close friendships at a time.


Wow! Now THAT is fascinating!


As well as completely liberating.


Think about that for a minute.


We are only able to maintain 5 close friendships at a time.



So give yourself some grace and don't be jealous of the people who claim to have hundreds and thousands of online friends (followers). Know that even THEY are not immune to this statistic in real life.


No go spend some quality time with one of your friends and build that lifelong bond.


You will be better off and - here's another statistic - friendships ward off depression! Just make sure they are healthy friendships. More about that in another post!


#friendships #relationships #mentalhealth


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